How to Persevere when it Gets Hard
Perseverance, also known as hanging in there, while difficult, it is also the difference between success and failure
Sometimes everyday life bites you and you just want to crawl under a rock and hide. Fear and overwhelm means that it becomes a challenge to put yourself out into the world where things may actually feel worse. The determination to keep going, no matter what the odds, is one of the key traits of most successful people. Regardless of what is thrown at them they preserver and as a result they learn to stay the distance and they reap the rewards.
Refusing to give up doesn’t mean that you will never fail, it simply means that you may have to take the long view and be patient. Perseverance is all about not stopping your belief that you can achieve what you set out to do. You keep going until you achieve your goals.
It is most unlikely that we are born with perseverance. Perseverance is a trait that we learn from a very young age. No child would learn to crawl or even walk without perseverance. Hopefully at that age you have your own mini team egging you on in the form of your mum and dad. Given the right encouragement your life you learn perseverance from a really young age.
Of course the journey begins at the beginning., Before long, you will look back and see all that you have accomplished on this journey called life. If you didn’t get the right support and encouragement right from a very young age then, it will maybe a miracle that you got as far as you did and that you didn’t stop when times got really rough.
Sadly your past can dictate your future. If you do keep finding yourself lacking perseverance then you may have to address the subconscious issues that are holding you back. Try to limit the contact you have with the bad memories of the past, let them go. They will just pull you down as you go through life. Living in the now is much better and you will find yourself worrying less. The past is behind you and there is nothing that can be done about it now. You can try to fix the mistakes you made by doing even better in the future. Everyone makes mistakes. Don’t be so hard on yourself when you do. Take them for what they are as a life lesson. Learn from them and move on. Don’t let one mistake ruin the rest of your life.
A strong character is built around perseverance. It shows what you are made of when faced with a challenge that you must overcome. Successful people are determined to meet that goal they have laid out for their future. They keep striving to get there and will fight anybody and anything that gets in their way. They are determined to see a task through to completion and then they will sit back and reap the rewards.
A failure is not always a mistake. It may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying.
B. F. Skinner
Be a doer and a thinker. Instead of whining, come up with an achievable solution to your worst problem. This can start you on the journey to reat confidence and elvated self-esteem. If you feel unhappy, then focus on some rewarding projects so you have a sense of achievement. Each morning try to think happy thoughts and dream of a goal you want to achieve and you will be on your way. It may take many months or years to achieve, but you started by thinking it into existence as a goal to be earned.
Make those hard decisions when they need to be made. They come about to test us. Persevere and work through the challenges when they are sent your way. This will demonstrate to others what you can do. You may even have a few people ask you how you do it. Be honest and you may just be the one to start them on their journey. Take pride in that. Mentoring can be another goal that is very satisfying. Teaching someone else how you persevered through a bad situation can always help. To know we are not alone in the world is always a great feeling to have. To know someone else made it through, and now you can do it too is a wonderful thing.
Remember to take small steps on that long journey. Pace yourself and try not to do it all at once. Take your time and rest along the way. You will find that if you persevere, you can get to the finish line.